You can change yourself to fulfill the expectations of the one you love. Or you can stay just as you are, and let them accept you that way. The choice you make, ultimately decides the future of your existence in your future life.
You can murder your identity and then spend the rest of your life trying to find it again. Or you can nurture a healthy relationship where you and your identity are both understood and well respected.
It’s ultimately your own choice. Make it wisely.